The Extraordinary Purpose Podcast
Episode Title: How to Build an Empowered Identity: The Power of Intention and Presence
Hosts: Erin & Chris Vertus – Life Coaches for Teens, Young Adults, and Parents
Date: October 14, 2025
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[00:00] Introduction
Welcome to The Extraordinary Purpose Podcast, where we explore the real, raw, and often challenging moments that parents and families face every day.
Whether you’re navigating the emotional ups and downs of parenting teens and young adults, striving to strengthen your relationship with your partner, or rediscovering your own purpose and identity, we’re here to walk beside you.
Our mission is to help you create a lifestyle full of love, passion, adventure, and influence — one intentional moment at a time.
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[01:25] A Beautiful Fall Conversation
Chris: Welcome back, everybody! We’re so glad to have you here for another heartfelt conversation on The Extraordinary Purpose Podcast. As always, I’m Chris, here with the inspirational and influential Erin Vertus.
Erin: Hi, honey. It’s a beautiful fall day here in Michigan — the leaves are changing, the air feels crisp, and our dog Koa has already dragged us on a few walks.
Chris: It’s that perfect fall balance — sunny, calm, and cozy.
Erin: I love fall once I fully surrender to it. Pumpkin spice everything, cozy sweaters, and long walks — this season just feels grounding.
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[03:10] Today’s Topic: Identity and Intention
Chris: Today, we’re diving into one of our favorite topics — Identity.
Erin: Yes. When people hear the word “identity,” they often think of labels — mom, dad, teacher, nurse, coach. But what we really want to explore today is not who you are on paper, but how you show up.
Chris: Identity is deeply connected to intention. And intention is what gives us power — the power to show up on purpose, to choose how we think, feel, and connect.
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[05:00] The Power of Intention in Parenting
Erin: When we live with intention, we’re more grounded. We have more influence over our emotional state, our thoughts, and our relationships. Everything flows better when we show up with intention.
Chris: Exactly. And this isn’t just theory — it’s something every parent and young adult can practice. The way we show up changes everything. It affects how our kids respond to us, how confident we feel, and how we connect as a family.
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[07:00] Practical Ways to Be More Intentional
Erin: Here’s how to start:
- Create a morning ritual. Take 5–10 minutes to set your intentions for the day.
- Journal daily to dialogue with yourself and build self-awareness.
- Meditate or breathe to calm your energy and regain presence.
Chris: Pause before the moment. Before you walk into a classroom, start a conversation, or sit down for dinner — take one breath. That’s where presence begins.
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[09:15] A Real-World Parenting Moment
Erin: There are evenings when I’m tired, dinner’s late, and chaos hits. My blood starts to boil. But when I pause — take a deep breath — everything shifts. Instead of snapping, I choose calm. I reconnect to the mom and partner I want to be. And when I do that, everyone else follows.
Chris: That moment of pause changes everything for parents and teens. It’s not about perfection — it’s about awareness and small course corrections.
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[11:20] Identity Is a Daily Choice
Erin: Identity isn’t something you “find” once — it’s something you practice daily.
Chris: Yes. It’s about who you become through the small, consistent reps — the rituals and reflections that shape you. When you show up intentionally, you take back control. You stop reacting and start leading. That’s what empowers you and your kids to live with purpose.
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[13:00] Visualization and the Future Self
Erin: One of my favorite exercises in our coaching program is visualization. If you want to change how you show up, first you have to see that version of yourself. Picture the parent who feels calm and confident. Picture the young adult who walks into class with purpose. Visualization helps you begin stepping into that version of yourself, moment by moment.
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[15:00] Practice Makes Purpose
Chris: Growth happens through daily practice. Athletes don’t master their sport overnight — they put in reps every day. The same goes for life. Start small. Pick one daily ritual. Commit to showing up intentionally in that one area. Over time, that consistency rewires your identity and builds your confidence.
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[17:00] Erin’s Final Reflection
Erin: When you take ownership of your identity, everything changes. You stop waiting for others to change and start influencing the energy around you. Your relationships strengthen, your kids feel safer, and you begin to feel proud of who you are every day.
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[18:10] Chris’s Challenge to Parents
Chris: Parents, here’s your challenge this week: Pick one daily moment — like the morning car ride, dinner, or bedtime — and show up intentionally. Pause, take a breath, ask one deeper question. Watch what happens when your family begins to follow your lead.
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[20:00] Closing
We’re so thankful for you and your beautiful family. We hope today’s episode brought you hope, inspiration, and a path forward.
If you’re ready to evolve your family’s dynamic, help your teen or young adult build confidence, or reconnect with your own sense of purpose — schedule a free discovery call with us today.
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Together, we’ll help you and your family create a life full of connection, confidence, and purpose.
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