How to Talk to Your Teen or Young Adult About Getting a Life Coach (Even If They’re Resistant)

 If you’ve ever tried to talk to your teen or young adult about life coaching, you probably know the feeling—walls go up, the conversation shuts down, and you’re left wondering if they’ll ever be open to the idea. You’re not alone. Many parents share the same struggle: “I know this could help my child, but they don’t want to hear it from me.”

The truth is, teens and young adults often don’t open up to their parents the same way they might to someone outside the family. And that’s exactly where life coaching can be a game-changer.

Why Teens and Young Adults Resist Coaching (and How to Reframe It)

When a parent suggests life coaching, many young people hear:

• “You think something is wrong with me.”

• “This is just another thing my parents want me to do.”

• “I don’t need more rules or advice.”

That resistance is natural. At this stage of life, independence is everything. The key is helping them see coaching not as something their parents want, but as an opportunity they would want for themselves.

At Extraordinary Purpose, we’ve built our first weeks of coaching specifically around this challenge. We help teens and young adults reframe the experience—shifting from resistance to curiosity, and eventually, to excitement.

A Different Kind of Environment

Here’s the thing: when young adults step into a coaching conversation, it’s a completely different environment than a talk at home.

• There’s no judgment.

• No power struggle.

• Just a safe, open space where they can show up in a way that often surprises even them.

We’ve seen it again and again—quiet, hesitant teens who come alive when they realize this is their time, their voice, and their future being supported.

How We Help Break Through Resistance

From day one, our program is designed to meet young people right where they are:

• Building trust and connection first. We help them feel seen, not “fixed.”

• Changing the perspective. We guide them to ask, “Why would I want this for me?”

• Boosting energy and motivation. So many young adults we meet describe themselves as lazy, tired, or unmotivated. We help them start building momentum and—most importantly—feeling good about themselves again.

• Casting a vision. Once they catch even a small glimpse of their future—something they’re excited about—the resistance melts away.

That’s when the real transformation begins.

Why the First Call Matters So Much

Here’s the honest truth: it all starts with a phone call. When your teen or young adult speaks with us—Erin and Chris—they don’t just hear about coaching. They experience it.

On that first call, we help them:

• See possibility instead of pressure.

• Find hope in what their future could look like.

• Feel the relief that they don’t have to figure it all out alone.

• Gain confidence that they’ll have real support to make their goals happen.

For many, this is the first time they’ve felt genuinely understood—and the first step toward a brighter future.

Bringing It Home

If your teen or young adult is resistant, don’t lose heart. That resistance is normal. What matters most is showing them that coaching isn’t another demand from you—it’s an opportunity for them.

The next step? Let them experience it for themselves.

👉 Schedule a free discovery call with Erin & Chris 

Because sometimes, one phone call is all it takes to turn resistance into hope, and hesitation into possibility.