The Best Gift You Can Give Your Teen? Reinvent Yourself First
Extraordinary Purpose Podcast with Erin Verdis and Chris Adang
Episode Summary: In this episode, Erin and Chris explore what it means
to reinvent yourself, reconnect with your identity, discover greater
purpose, and create meaningful direction for the future. This
conversation is especially valuable for parents of teens and young
adults who want to model personal growth, confidence, purpose, and
intentional living. Topics include self-discovery, life transitions,
parenting teens, parenting young adults, confidence, motivation,
alignment, personal growth, and life coaching.
Keywords: life coaching for teens, life coaching for young adults,
parenting teens, parenting young adults, teen motivation, young adult
direction, self-discovery, purpose, confidence, personal growth,
identity, life transitions, parent coaching, Extraordinary Purpose
Transcript:
📍 📍 📍 you don’t understand that on the other side of that kind of
breakdown is this beautiful breakthrough, and that there’s so much
beauty on the other side of reinventing ourselves.
Yeah. Yeah, and I think it starts with a feeling.
Mm-hmm.
And I think if we all take a minute, we talk about slowing down so much
on this podcast and in our life and with all the parents we talk to and
all the young adults that we talk to, but it’s true.
When you slow down, all of a sudden you can start to tune into that
voice that’s right there below the surface- Mm-hmm … that, that knows
who you are and knows what you want and knows what your worth is and
what your values are.
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Welcome back, everybody, to the Extraordinary Purpose podcast with the
spiritual badass herself, Erin Verdice.
Yes.
I love it. I haven’t broken that one out ever, I don’t think. And of
course, I am Chris. It is such,, a thrill, uh, to be back with all of
you today. How’s it going, sweetheart?
It’s going great.
I’m so excited to be here. It’s been a minute.
It’s been a minute. , We have a few things going on. It’s a busy time of
the year for Erin and Chris.
It is.
All good stuff, , which we’re gonna get into I’m sure at some point
during our episode today.
Yep.
But most importantly, we hope everybody out there who’s tuning in today
is also doing extremely well.
This is a busy time of the year regardless if you’re getting married in
two weeks, right?
In, in Puerto
Rico. Or you’re about to hop on a plane to Puerto Rico or you’re trying
to bring in your immediate family along for the ride.
Oh,
boy. , Everybody’s got stuff going on. Plus we have-
Graduations
and- Middle school graduations, high school graduations.
Yep.
I’m sure you can relate, , because the school year is wrapping up. For
some of you, the s- the summer is already started.
Yeah, just a lot of fun, like new beginnings, new journeys- Yeah … about
to begin. So although hectic, I keep grounding myself in the excitement
of it all- Yeah … and just the deeper meaning behind everything that
we’re about to walk into.
I created a little clip yesterday, I think it was for Instagram, where
the whole idea was that, , summer goes by in the blink of an eye.
Mm-hmm.
And it’s true. , However, it’s also this incredible time of the year.
It’s also this incredible opportunity, and so we hope that conversations
like this help us all slow down for a few minutes- Yeah
, Become a little bit more intentional, and most importantly, get
focused on what’s really important which, by the way, Mom and Dad, it’s
you.
Yeah. Absolutely.
And so that kinda leads us to today’s topic, right, babe?
Sure does.
So what is today’s topic?
Today’s topic is all about how to reinvent yourself, and those are some
pretty big words, and I know that can mean a lot of thing, a lot of
different things to different people.
Yeah.
It’s about those times in life when you come up against yourself and you
have those aha moments, right? Whether it’s in a really good, positive
way of like, “I’m ready to go into this next phase of my life and try
something- Yeah
new,” or the universe forces you into reinvention, that, “You know what?
This is no longer working for me. I’m completely out of alignment with
the things that are really important to me. I’m burnt out. I’m stressed
out.” “I cannot do this anymore.” Yeah. “Something has to effing
change.”
Yeah.
Either way, reinvention is such a beautiful time in our lives, if we can
see it like that.
And I think when you’re younger and you’re going through it for those
first couple times, and I know I’m gonna talk about one of my really
early reinvention stories in a little bit, it feels like the world is
collapsing. Yes, it does. It feels like, “Oh, my God. How am I gonna get
through this? I don’t know how I’m gonna deal with this,”
you don’t understand that on the other side of that kind of breakdown is
this beautiful breakthrough, and that there’s so much beauty on the
other side of reinventing ourselves.
Yeah. Yeah, and I think it starts with a feeling.
Mm-hmm.
And I think if we all take a minute, we talk about slowing down so much
on this podcast and in our life and with all the parents we talk to and
all the young adults that we talk to, but it’s true.
When you slow down, all of a sudden you can start to tune into that
voice that’s right there below the surface- Mm-hmm … that, that knows
who you are and knows what you want and knows what your worth is and
what your values are. And I’m s- I’m excited, when we get to the point
today where we’re gonna share our stories, because the thing about
sharing your reinvention story, and we all have them- Mm-hmm
we’ve all changed, we’ve all evolved. Now, sometimes you could make the
argument it’s not always for the better. But today we are focused on
growth. We are focused on positive evolution-
Mm-hmm …
because that is the feeling that we’re all striving for- Yeah … that
we’re all searching for. It feels good when you’re moving forward and
you’re becoming that best version of yourself that you know that you’re
capable of being.
Yeah, and maybe that’s what I was talking about, is, as you get older
and you’ve gone through this and you’ve been able to put that positive
spin on it, you have reference.
Yeah.
That you know that, yes, this is gonna be a bitch to go through, right?
This is gonna be hard. Right. And oh, my God, I gotta climb up this
mountain, and it feels like you’re starting over, but when you’ve done
it before and you’re mindful and intentional about it, you know that on
the other side of that is, yeah, there’s that evolution.
There’s that feeling of, freedom again. Yeah. When you’re young, you
don’t have that yet, and so all it feels like is the uphill climb. And
something you said a second ago, I had a thought about. Yeah. You know
that, that little voice, the little Jiminy Cricket- Uh-huh. Yeah … voice
in all of us that we are always reminding our kids when they’re little-
Yeah
to listen to, right? Mm-hmm. That voice of, , right and wrong. “Don’t
touch the hot-” stove. Sure Like, it starts with those simple things.
And it got me thinking just now how we lose sight of that. We do. We
lose sight of it for our young adult children, we don’t want them to
always be following that voice as much.
We just want them to follow our directions a little- … bit more. But
even us as adults, mm-hmm. We, it’s so easy to lose touch with that
voice of consciousness, of like- Mm-hmm … that’s right below. We also
get so distracted, and we’re overcome with having to make the right
amount of money and take care of everybody.
Mm-hmm. And we get lost, and that voice gets drowned out.
Yeah. And so I guess the question then is why do we get lost?
Mm.
, Why do we get stuck? And I think that’s really important because, we
want our conversation today to inspire. Yeah. The thing about, you know,
talking about things and sharing things and sharing stories and how we
feel, it’s not just making us feel good, because it does.
Erin and I always feel great after we have these conversations- Yeah …
today and every other day that we talk to, talk about these things. But
most importantly, when we hear these things,, it can inspire us, and
actually, that voice starts to get a little bit louder. , I know that as
I was growing up, there were always people that I looked up to, that I
was inspired by, either through their stories or through their actions
or all the above.
And whenever I would be in an environment like that, I would walk away,
and that voice inside of me would be so much louder so much louder. And
yet when I was miserable in my job for a lot of years, which I was, when
I was unhappy in a relationship for a lot of years, which I
unfortunately was-
Mm-hmm …
, all of a sudden that voice gets quieter and quieter and quieter for a
while.
Yeah. That’s so true. And, , I think that’s one of the main reasons that
people feel stuck.
Yes.
Right? Is that autopilot. Yes. It’s that idea that, you know, you know
what it’s like. We know what it’s like. You get… Especially once you
have children, the years go by. Mm-hmm. The years go by and you’re
raising little ones- Yeah
and they become, young adolescents and then teenagers., It’s no surprise
that so many people, when their kids finally go away off to college and
they’re left just the two of them, decide to get divorced, . when we get
to this mid-life where we decide to change course ’cause you finally
kinda have that time again.
It’s quieter. You… That voice is no longer able to be silenced through
raising kids and taking care of other people. And so it’s that living on
autopilot. We’re just getting by day to day. We’re trying to make money.
We’re trying to take care of our kids. We’re trying to get the next
raise, whatever it is.
Mm-hmm.
And we really lose sight. When you are busy in that stage of life, it’s
so easy for all of that noise to consume you.
Yeah, it absolutely is, and I think that the way that I would summarize
it is, and I’m just thinking of myself, is that you’re just focused on
other things.
Mm-hmm.
You’re not focused on yourself.
You’re not necessarily focused on your passions and your purpose. Maybe
you are focused on your parenting. , I know for a lot of us, and that,
you and I, Erin, like that was a big part of our lives, has been for the
last 18 years.
Mm-hmm.
And when you’re in , that lane, and you’re in that zone, it’s really
easy for other areas of your life to start to be put to the side or not
get the attention that they deserve or maybe even that they need-
Yeah
In order for us to be our best. And so relationships suffer, and your
jobs suffer. Or in my case too, , I was focused on my career way too
much, a career that was not the right job for me or the right career for
me past a certain point, and I’m gonna share it. I’m gonna talk about
that ’cause that’s part of reinvention.
, But when you’re focused on that, , all of a sudden you lose touch-
Yeah … with yourself.
Yeah, and I think, , what some of that can lead to is another reason I
think we stay stuck, and this was true for me. And this isn’t part of
the story I’m gonna share today, but it’s part of my overall story,
excuse me, is, is stress- Yeah
and survival mode. Yeah. I spent a number of years feeling very much in
that- Mm-hmm … survival mode. In a relationship I felt often trapped in.
Mm-hmm.
Even though I left a couple times, I felt emotionally and
psychologically tied to- Yeah … and went back and forth. Um- Mm-hmm …
and then, having little kids in the midst of all of that- Right
feeling very stressed all the time, on eggshells, feeling like I was
just trying to get by day-to-day. Yeah. And that’s more in hindsight.,
In the actual days, I was doing a great job as a mom. Of course you
were. My kids, , had a great childhood. Things went well enough because
I made sure to put myself second so I could take care of them.
But I think whether it, that’s part of your story, if you were a single
parent or you were in a challenging, toxic relationship we find
ourselves in these different circumstances throughout our lives where
we’re in survival mode. You’re in a lot of stress. And again, that time
tends to fly by.
It sure does.
And so we don’t even recognize during that time, somewhere inside- …
that voice is down there saying, “It’s time to reinvent yourself.” Yeah.
“You need to get the hell out of this and figure out what’s next for
you.” Yeah. But it’s not always so easy. This podcast is mainly for
parents, and , when you are taking…
We have other lives to take care of. It’s not always so easy to just up
and reinvent yourself when they’re younger.
Exactly. And I think that, , one of the messages that we want to always
reinforce, you know, is that as we’re getting older and our kids are
getting older, and they’re going off to college or they’re in high
school, it’s this amazing opportunity for a lot of us to maybe slow down
a little bit.
Um, because of the power that’s in that. I know Erin,, part of our
reinvention story was we finally started to slow down.
Mm-hmm.
And,, when you’re going a million miles a minute and you’re focused on
kids, you’re focused on work or whatever your focus is, everybody’s got
different focuses.
Mm-hmm.
, It means that you’re not balanced, and I know that’s a little bit of
an overused word, but it just means that you’re not connected- Yeah …
with some of the things that we need to connect with in order for us to
be ourselves, our true selves.
Mm-hmm.
, The part of us that’s capable of doing so many, , incredible things, ,
still, and I’m 51.
Erin’s just about to be-
At 30 …
30, ’cause that’s- … actually another big, a big milestone.
I’m almost, I’m almost 50, everyone. I’m gonna be
50-
Oh, my gosh …
this Saturday, the day my son graduates high school.
How could we be this far into the conversation- I know, I know … and
we’re talking about, oh, it’s gonna be an incredible- Reinvention
summer reinvention. So much stuff going on, and we didn’t talk about
your 30th birthday coming up. I
know. Oh,
my goodness. That’s pretty exciting. And if somebody’s listening to this
or watching this- Yeah … , it’s not actually 30.
It’s not. I said 50. Oh, you did? Yeah. You were talking too loud.
I was. I
do that.
No, I’m turning 50. I’m owning it. It’s okay. I love getting older. I
get to reinvent myself again in this next phase of my life, which is a
whole ’nother podcast. But yes, and so alignment, , that’s back to, you
just said something about alignment and it- Yeah … , if I had to
simplify this is when we know it’s time to reinvent ourselves is when we
are not living in alignment.
Alignment with the very things that Chris and I coach on every day,
alignment with your values, alignment with, your passions, alignment
with that voice within. And when I think back to that time in my life I
was just talking about- Mm … , i had done some work on myself, and I’m
gonna talk about that right now.
I had been on my journey for a little bit. I knew a little bit about
what my values were, about what was important to me, and I knew I was
not in the right relationship. I was not living my life- … in alignment
with those things that were important to me. , And I think that’s why so
many of us, we wake up and recognize that we are not in alignment with
the things that are truly meaningful to us, that are gonna really help
us evolve to that next level.
Mm. And so my, the story I kinda decided to talk about today is- you
know, what got me on that trajectory in my life to begin with. And I’ve
talked about this a little bit on the podcast before if you’ve listened
in the past. , But mine is when I was a young adult is what came to
mind. I tried not to think too hard, ’cause I have a lot of reinvention
stories.
But I was in my early 20s, and I, I was a model for many years. I
started a modeling career when I was a young teenager, and that’s what I
did through probably my mid to late 20s before I, I went to college
eventually. Mm-hmm. Got my degrees. But, , I was modeling, I was living
in New York City, I was traveling around the world, I was working a lot,
I was traveling a lot.
Early on in my career, I just would go to the gym every day. I was not a
kid in high school who partied very much or drank very much. Mm-hmm. It
just wasn’t my MO. It ran in my family a lot, I think I was scared of
that. But eventually, and , I got a little bit caught up in the party
scene in New York at one point.
, I was going 150 miles an hour- Yeah … like you just said. I was not,,
I did not stop for a second to think too much about where this whole
trajectory was taking me. But what I do recall back then, and I didn’t
know it until now, it’s in hindsight, is that voice was so loud.
Wow.
I had this voice that was like, “You are not on the right path.”
Hmm. “You have a responsibility in this world.” Mm-hmm. “You are meant
for way more than this, even more than this, modeling career, and this
is not who you are,” and it was loud. And so I was very fortunate. I
don’t remember that voice before that time. Mm-hmm. And so the cool
thing is that we need those moments in us, we need those dark times.
Yeah. Those sort of dark nights of the soul, those moments when our
spirit is crying out to us, because sometimes we don’t have that voice
otherwise.
Right.
And so I knew it was time for a change, and I met somebody who at the
time turned out to be, um, my, my boyfriend for several years. I was in
my very early 20s, and there was just something about him.
Again, in hindsight, I look back, he was a little older than me, and he
was on a spiritual path in his life, and I probably was attracted to
that because I knew that I wanted out of this- Mm-hmm … other life that
I had got caught up in. , And , I just really started gravitating
towards now I see- Hmm
the things that I value most, the things that my soul was crying out
for, the things that I’m passionate about and have been ever since my
early 20s, personal development. I found meditation teachers. I
discovered Buddhism. I got back to my Native American, , traditions and
my- Mm-hmm … roots and teachings.
Um, I started meeting all these incredible spiritual women in New York
that I met through Randy at the time, this boyfriend of mine. , He was
sober, and so he was in the community of, , women who were sober and
doing these spiritual retreats, and he introduced me to a lot of them.
, And my life just opened up to me. It’s like everything just opened up
to me, and I knew that, um, that was gonna be my journey.
Mm-hmm.
And it truly- Hmm … has been my journey ever since. , But for me, , I
feel very fortunate. It was that voice. I knew I was not living in
alignment with the things that were important to me.
Um, and soon- Mm-hmm … after that,, I decided to go back to school and
decided to study psychology, and I studied Native American studies, and
that all eventually led me to this path of life coaching that- Wow …
I’ve been on for all of these years. So that reinvention story is so
important to me- Mm … because it was the beginning of everything.
Yeah.
And that’s why even when I, I… , it wasn’t just all roses after that- …
because it never is. You can have those early reinvention stories, and
life is still gonna come at you. Mm-hmm. , Things aren’t perfect, and so
I had a lot to deal with after that, but that foundation that I set for
myself at that time in my life is what has carried me through the other
dark times that I’ve had to reinvent myself from.
Wow. That’s inspiring.
Thanks, babe.
Yeah.
You know that story.
I love- You love hearing it over and over again … to hear that story.
But once again, that’s important for us to reconnect with those stories-
Mm-hmm …
because that’s reconnecting with ourselves. , That’s also getting the
opportunity to share it with a mom or a dad or whoever’s listening
because th- there’s a similar opportunity that awaits all of us.
Yeah.
And, , I’m gonna share my story now because my story, I’m gonna
fast-forward. Erin’s story is a little bit earlier in her life. Yeah. ,
Mine’s a little bit later, where I was already, um, busy in a very
successful marketing career. Successful in that, , I always… It came
easy to me. , And I think that’s why I fell into marketing because I, in
a lot of ways, marketing was the safe path for me.
Mm-hmm. As I was in college and I was thinking about who I was and what
I wanted to do, I knew what I was passionate about. I knew who I was. I
wasn’t yet ready to take some of the bigger steps that I really needed
to take to become who I was capable of being, and so I fell into a
career in marketing that, by the way, was still allowing me to be a
leader and be creative, and I worked with some amazing brands.
, I got the opportunity to work with so many young adults, and that was
part of how I ended up , to where I am today. But I was also going a
million miles a minute. I was traveling around the country. I was in a
different city almost every single weekend. I was doing events, and I
was with clients, and I was wining and dining, and literally, I was
working 12-hour days from breakfast to working during the day to dinners
to evening th- activities and experiences that we would do, to weekend
events.
It was really nonstop. And during all that time, I had two amazing
kids,, and that I tried to spend as much time as I possibly could with.
It was probably more about quality over quantity. Mm-hmm. But because I
was working so hard, and,, I was, day after day and month after month, I
was getting burned out.
And very slowly, as the years progressed, and unfortunately this story
does go into the years, the longer than it should have went in
retrospect, it went way too long, and that frustrates me because I
missed out on some opportunities along the way and , some reinventions
that could have happened much, much earlier.
But it’s because I was a dad. I was also a husband,, that for many years
was in a very, not unhealthy, but a very unhappy relationship with a, a
really wonderful woman who we had nothing in common with. And we kinda
knew that pretty early in our relationship, and yet we stayed together
for probably a couple of reasons, but the biggest reason was because of
the kids and because we were busy in our own careers.
Yeah.
And so as I… As time was going on and on, , the job that I once found
fun and exciting and, there were parts of it that I did enjoy, I started
to get burned out. I started to realize that I had reached a ceiling,
that I had taken this job and this career literally as far as I could
take it.
If I had continued, there was literally nothing new that I could do with
it. Now, that’s not necessarily true, I could have reinvented myself
within marketing and continued a career, but I knew that’s not what I
wanted. And this voice inside of me started to become stronger and
stronger and stronger.
And so my reinvention story comes in two different phases now. One phase
was from a career standpoint. It was my very last work trip to New York
City, and I was there for a really big client meeting, I think with
Armani or some really big brand, and I went in, I had a great meeting, I
finished on a strong note, and then as I walked out of that meeting and
I got in a cab and I was heading back to LaGuardia, that voice was
glaring.
Mm.
Just l- the, the loudest it had ever been. And I remember we were
crossing one of the bridges to go to the airport, and I just said to
myself, “That was the last time I’m ever doing that And I, it just
became so abundantly clear that it was time for a change, and that was
the moment. And not soon afterwards, I made the same decision about my
relationship.
Yeah.
And that quickly followed, , where I took a couple of months off, and I
just reconnected with myself, and I slowed down, and I started to think
about, again, for the first time in a long time, what some of my
passions were, what I enjoyed about my job. And I started to put all
these pieces together, and it didn’t take too long, Erin-
Yeah
where all of a sudden I knew because I loved working with young adults.
I,, I, I knew what my passions were. I wanted to make a difference. I
always wanted to make a difference. Didn’t matter what I was doing. I
wanted to make a difference. I wanted to motivate and inspire. And I
finally n- you know, after a month or two, I finally said, “You know
what?
I’m gonna do this. I’m gonna become a coach. I’m gonna figure out what
the next steps in my relationship are,” and I did. And all of that
happened within, months.
Mm-hmm.
Instead of years. Yeah. Which is what it had been up until that point in
time. And that was an incredible moment in my life because here I am
today-
Yeah
with the love of my life- Yes … doing what I love,, building our brand,
getting a chance to speak to some incredible parents out there.
Yeah.
This is what we’re meant to do.
Yeah, I love that story too, honey. And, it’s true, so much of our
process, our coaching process, what Chris and I have been building all
these years with our coaching programs with young adults, with parents,
me with women, is s- so much of it stems from these stories- Yeah
from our own journey, yeah. A lot of what I work on with the young
women, that I coach is my story that I just shared with you- Yes … which
I kept really brief and, , concise, there’s so much more depth to it.
But it’s all those steps that I took when I recognized that I was not in
alignment with the life I was meant to live.
That’s right. And what was really important to me and h- and the steps
that I took to get quiet and to slow down and to get back in touch with
who I truly was, and get clarity on my future and what I really wanted
for myself. And that kinda brings us to, , the process that we do use
with our clients is all about that.
Yeah. It’s about learning how to slow down. And one thing I wanna say,
Chris, about your story is, it’s really amazing that it can take so
long- … to get to that point. , Tony Robbins always says, “We think that
we change,, it takes years and years to change.” He’s like, “It’s like a
snap of a finger.”
Yeah, it can be.
We really can change that quickly. It can be. And we often do. Yeah.
It’s just, , it takes us so long to get to that point. And I always say,
when you’re on the fence, it’s the worst place to be. It’s so miserable,
it’s uncomfortable. , There’s no going this right or left, it’s just
you’re just stuck.
And when you finally make that decision, and it is like that snap of a
finger, the blink of an eye, everything, , the universe meets you in the
middle and all the opportunities show up and things unfold.
Yeah. And what does it take to trust yourself to make those hard,
confident choices? Mm-hmm. Like, that’s the question, and I think that’s
what so many people, and us, we struggle with- Yeah
have struggled with in the past. It’s making those choices, even a
choice that we know is the right choice for us.
Mm-hmm.
And there’s so many reasons to do it, but there’s also that voice that’s
trying to hold you back. ’Cause we’ve talked a lot about that positive
voice that knows who we are and knows what we want and knows what’s
important to us.
Mm-hmm. There’s a lot of other voices that can complicate the process
too. And that’s why, , the first step in this process, and we can get
into a lot of the details and there’s so many different ways to do it,
but it is, it’s just practicing the art of, , slowing down. And there’s
different habits that you can do to do that.
There’s different ways to do that. But if you just think to yourself,
“What is a moment each day where I can just have some time to myself,
slow down, get away from life, my job, my relationships, my
responsibilities, just so that I can spend some time with myself?”
Mm-hmm.
What change or difference can that make in your day, in your life?
Yeah. And getting away from,, when you were going through some of these
dark nights of the soul and- Yeah … you need, it’s too many, too much
input from other people.
Oh, yeah.
And, it’s so important to really just everybody else needs to be drowned
out. Yes. You really need to get into this place of trusting yourself
and trusting- Mm
your own intuition and knowing your instincts and what’s best for you.
And even with that, it can be challenging., My time- Mm … that I spoke
about when you’re younger and alone in life, and I mean- … for parents
listening, I’m speak, I, I share that story because I think we wanna
know of how our young adults can evolve- Yeah
and help them learn how to go within and reinvent themselves. S- it, it
feels a lot easier when you’re younger and you don’t have children, and
marriages, and big careers that are counting on you. It is a lot harder
as you get older and you have- Yeah … all this responsibility. So Chris
is right, we don’t wanna skip over that ’cause it’s really challenging
to know what to do.
I remember spending hours- … crying and knowing I needed to leave that
relationship, and it was just so hard to pull- Hm … the trigger.
Yeah. And I mentioned, you know, I think when I was getting read- as I
was starting my story that, when I got into the career of marketing, , I
knew certain things about myself.
What some of my passions were. I loved entertaining. I loved being up on
stage. I had dreams of film and radio and television and all these
things, right? And so I knew that there was this stuff inside of me-
Mm-hmm … that needed a voice, it needed a platform. I didn’t know
exactly what that looked like, but, , that’s what I lost touch with over
the years-
Mm-hmm
was that part of myself. There were certain moments where it would get a
chance to come out, and man, I never felt better. And now
you’re on stage every day here at home.
Yeah, well- … whether it’s a single audience, meaning me and Koa-
Right …
or Tiny, um, or- Our pets … or we’re doing this podcast. Yeah.
But it’s true, and that’s when you feel alive is when you’re con- either
reconnecting- Mm-hmm … with these parts of yourself, these passions- Yep
… these values, the special ingredients, the things that make you who
you are. How can we live a life doing things that are not in alignment
with who we are?
I don’t know. Like, I’m not… Like, that is such a breakdown and a
conversation that we could have in the future- Yes … to really
understand, like, how that happens in the first place. There’s a lotta
reasons.
Yeah.
But the point is when you’re older in life like we are, and we’re not
old, there’s plenty of time, but feels that way sometimes,
mm-hmm.
Is that you have to reconnect with those parts of yourselves because I
bet if you take a second right now, you have passions. You have
interests. There’s things that you’re great at. Maybe you haven’t done
it for years. Maybe now is the time to reconnect with it, to get it
started again. And then if you’re a young adult or if you have young
adults, look, we have 90 days of summer in front of us.
Mm-hmm. Man, this is the absolute perfect time to go out and learn more
about yourself. Try some new things, , h- find a new hobby. Yeah.
Explore your curiosities. If you’re a parent, you don’t know who you
are, and we know parents like that, and that’s okay.
And trust us, it’s, , you might be listening to this thinking, “Okay,,
what do I gotta do?”
“Do I, , what class do I need to take?” You’re right. And it’s really,
it’s not out there.
No.Â
And that’s the thing, is it’s in here. It’s
right
in here. It’s in you. And , I’m gonna give you some simple rituals right
now that are really helpful with this that might sound overly
simplistic, but I promise you- Yeah
this is the process that works. It’s getting out in nature for a walk by
yourself. Yes. , Without headphones, without your phone, even without
another person. Mm. And just listening to yourself, being out with the
trees and the sunshine in the summertime. , It’s grabbing your journal
in the morning with your cup of coffee or tea and spending 10 minutes
alone just getting grateful for, , anything you can think of in your
life that brings forth those feelings of gratitude.
Yeah.
, It’s taking a hot bath at the end of a long day and just sitting with
your own thoughts and thinking. Um, there’s so many ways to just start
that process of just reconnecting with yourself so you can start to hear
that voice a little bit. That’s where it begins. Yes. And it’s in
there., We, our brand- Mm-hmm
and our business is Extraordinary Purpose because Chris and I
wholeheartedly believe that we all have a purpose., We’re all here to
contribute something great to the world, and it doesn’t have to be on
some great big grand stage or big scale. No. It could be planting a
beautiful garden every summer that your neighbors get to look at.
, On any scale, but we have s- a gift. We all have something we’re here
to contribute, and so it’s getting back in touch with that. And the only
way to do that is to slow down and get quiet.
Yeah. And so I think , the challenge for all of us is to think now about
the next 90 days.
Mm-hmm.
And what we’re gonna do is we want for all of us to identify what a
couple of these rituals are, these things that you’re gonna do every
single day that are all about slowing down and grounding yourself and
connecting with yourself, that’s how it all starts.
Mm-hmm.
And it takes practice. We talk so much about practice, but remember, a
lot of the reason that people don’t reinvent themselves, it’s not that
they don’t know what they want or what they’re passionate about or what
they’re supposed to do, is that they’re not willing to slow down enough
to start to put themselves in the position- To take some of those,,
steps forward or make some of those choices.
Yeah. That’s what it is. And so just by slowing down each day, what does
that really do? It breaks the pattern. All right? Yeah. It’s not the
same old, same old. Who here, raise of hands, who f- feels like
Groundhog Day every day? We do sometimes. And yet we’re doing a lot of
these things, right? But you wanna break that feeling of , “Oh my gosh,
it’s just gonna be another summer just like last summer, where
everybody’s on their devices, including us parents- Yeah
and we’re not connected with each other or ourselves.” And so that’s
what this is about, is saying no more. We’re gonna break that pattern
today. We’re gonna identify what some of those rituals are to slow down,
to connect with ourselves, to take better care of ourselves. Man, is
that what this is really all about, is we’re gonna finally put the focus
back on us-
Mm-hmm
so that we can connect with ourselves, remember who we are, and what our
potential is, and what we’re really capable of. And don’t forget, by the
way, a little side note, the influence that creates on our
relationships, including with our kids and , our husband or our wives.
Mm-hmm. All of that good stuff.
Yeah. And so the challenge is, is pick a couple of these daily rituals,
whether it’s getting out for a 10 or 15-minute walk each day, whether
it’s, , spending a few minutes in the morning or evening just
meditating, just c- slowing down and quieting yourself and listening to
that voice. Starting to get curious about what some of your interests
are or were, and what you’d like to reconnect with, and starting to get
excited about that again.
Yeah. Like Erin and I, we do that all the time. , Having that vision and
having something to look forward to, man, that’s a reason to wake up
tomorrow morning and say, “Today’s gonna be the day, that I’m gonna take
one little small step towards doing that thing that lights me up and
gets me excited.”
Absolutely. And that’s really where reinvention starts. Those quiet
moments, getting clarity again, creating that vision for yourself,
starting to really cultivate the right environment- Yeah … to bring some
of that stuff to life. And, , we know, Chris and I have each other,
thank goodness, and we hold each other accountable, and we can even
coach each other sometimes when we’re in the right mood.
Mm.
Very true. But it’s challenging to do on your own. Yeah. So if you’re
listening to this and you’re like, “Yes, it’s time. I- it’s time for a
reinvention. I wanna take advantage of this summer,” and you want some
guidance, we’re here for you. Yeah. We got your back. We would love to
talk with you about where you are in your life, what’s going on with
you.
If you have a young adult that you know is ready for some reinvention in
their own life- Mm. Yeah … and it’s time to, , get a, a head start on
what’s coming up in the fall for them,, we’re gonna have some links
below. Book a call with us. We love talking to parents. We love talking-
Mm-hmm … to young adults.
And you do not talk to anyone from our team. It’s just Chris and I, and
we’ll have an intimate conversation and see how we can support you in
moving forward in your reinvention.
There’s really nothing more important.
Mm-hmm.
And my message and my, my experience is don’t wait one more day.
Yep.
Okay? If you know that there is something more for you, that it’s time
for a change, you need some help and support, I always share this, but
my very first mentor, very first thing that I ever learned in the
personal development space was you can’t do it alone. Yeah. And in fact,
that’s a lot of the reasons why we don’t reinvent ourselves, is because
we feel alone, and that feels overwhelming.
And so Erin and I are here to make that possible, and for, to hear what
your story is, for us to create your story together and get you on that
path ASAP.
That’s our passion.
Yeah, it is. All right, everybody.
Yay.
I think this was a good one.
It was a great one.
It’s always a great one. Hope you enjoyed it.
Stay tuned. There are so many great conversations coming up. We love
you. We believe in you. We are excited to meet you, and we’ll talk to
you soon.
Love you guys. Take care. Have a great week.
Bye-bye.
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