Extraordinary Purpose Podcast
How to Create a Life Vision That Inspires Your Family (Why Parents Must Lead First)
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Yeah, the only way that we’re gonna get better, okay, individually and
as a family, is we gotta get honest with ourselves.
Mm-hmm..
And once again, I think this is an area that a lot of people struggle
with, is looking in the mirror and looking at these things, and just
being honest. And it’s okay, by the way, if some of these things aren’t
going as well as we’d like. That’s actually a good thing. Mm-hmm..
Because that means, guess what?
That you have a lot to look forward to, there’s a lot of change that can
come from that, but you first gotta get real.
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Hello, everybody, and welcome back to the Extraordinary Purpose podcast
with Erin and Chris. I’m Chris, and sitting to my left is the beautiful
and amazing Erin Vertes. What’s- Hey, sweetheart …
going on? Hey, sweetie. How’s it going? It’s
going great.
Good.
So we should just bring everybody up to speed. It’s the middle of
summer.
Uh, the first part of our summer was absolutely crazy.
Oh my gosh.
What did we have going on?
We had- We had so, so many good… I mean, we made-
So many good things …
so many good memories- Lots of good memories … in the last two months.
Yes. So we had our wedding in Puerto Rico.
That was a , great experience.
And then this past weekend… So we had that, came home, got to breathe
for a minute- Yeah … and then got on to the next planning, the next
phase of planning for my son turned 19, and then the next day we had his
graduation party.
Woo-hoo, yeah.
So it’s been amazing. Just so much fun, so much family, so many great
milestones, and I am just like Taking a deep breath.
Yeah. We can move into the next phase of our summer now. Yeah. We get to
go camping. Chris and I are going- Yeah … camping for a couple days
alone, just the two of us.
Ooh. The way you said alone was- Fair.
It’s true. We
do need- Eyebrows were raised … some alone
time. My-
But no, , we do … eyebrows were raised. We, we do need alone time.
Yeah. And,, I think that everybody can probably appreciate just how busy
summer can be. You think that, “Oh my gosh, it’s summer. We have all
this free time,” or at least our kids do, and yet we also know it goes
by with the blink of an eye, especially if we’re not intentional.
Yeah.
And so the first part of our summer has flown by, just because we’ve
been so incredibly busy.
Yeah. And so yeah, the camping trip for a couple of days is our chance
to probably slow down, , to ground ourselves a little bit because we do,
we have new goals and we gotta get clear on what those goals are.
Yeah, and , the truth is I suffer a little bit from this. I think
probably a lot of other moms can relate to the post, , escalation- Ah
like the climatic, like events coming and going and then that next day
I’m like a little depressed or just down. Yeah. , A little, the blues I
guess of, “Oh my God, it’s all over. There was all this excitement.” But
we were just talking about this before we hit record, based on our topic
today is that we’re talking today about the importance of having a life
vision- Yes
and creating a personal life vision and then a family life vision. And
the reason it’s so important and can be so fun is because what Chris
just said, like we’ve reached so many of our personal goals- Yes, we
have … and our goals as a couple and for our kids in this past year. And
now we’re, the reason, part of the reason we’re going camping is to sit
down together by a fire just the two of us to start talking about what
the next year or two are gonna look like.
Yeah. The, , the home we wanna buy, what we wanna do with our business,,
some trips we wanna take with the kids, and just who we wanna continue
becoming as individuals, as a couple.
I don’t think I’m speaking for everybody, but I think for most people,
like they have a beautiful life to look forward to.
Mm-hmm..
A beautiful, exciting, , inspiring life to look forward to. I think what
gets in the way is a little thing called life. , Jobs and kids and just
day-to-day challenges. , We have kids off at camp and starting sports
and, the list goes on and on of things that get in the way of that
exciting life vision-
, That is out there, that, that needs some attention. And I think that’s
the purpose of this conversation today, is really to understand a couple
of things. Number one is what is that life vision and how do we create
it? , And then two, how to connect with it on a regular basis.
Yeah.
Because I think a lot of times life gets in the way.
I think a lot of times, and this goes a lot of times for our kids, our
teens, our young adults, doesn’t really matter what age you are, is it’s
a big, overwhelming, scary thing if you don’t look at it all the time,
right? Connect with it all the time. And so we do, we get ourselves
distracted and we look at other things instead, at all costs to not look
at that exciting thing that’s out there just waiting for us and our
family.
And so that’s the purpose of this conversation, is to slow down for a
few minutes. Let’s connect with it. Let’s look at it. Let’s see what it
is and who we need to be to go out there and make it happen.
Yeah, because the truth is that, , life is hectic and it’s challenging,
and we have a lot of limiting beliefs and negative inner dialogue and-
Sure we do
things come up that we don’t expect. So if we don’t have clarity on
what’s important to us- Yeah … and take the time to slow down and create
a vision based on who we are, what we want, what our values are, what’s
important to us- Mm-hmm. …, the minute life gets tough, the minute
somebody throws,, a wrench in the system, right?
Yeah. The minute, , you have a limiting belief that takes you down,
whatever that is, y- you’re gonna fall apart- Yeah … if you don’t have a
vision that’s guiding your way. And that’s essentially what a life
vision can be. It’s a Northern Star that can guide your way once you
have that clarity. And it doesn’t mean there’s not room for change and
wiggle room for things to shift, ’cause people grow and people change
over the years, especially if you’re creating, , a five-year plan.
But you at least have the essence of, what you truly want.
Because there’s a couple of different ways of looking at our life.
There’s a life where you wake up each day and you’re just flying by the
seat of your pants, you’re just surviving, you’re just trying to get by.
You’re taking your kids to school, you’re picking ’em up, you’re taking
’em to sports.
, You’re stressed, you’re overwhelmed. , You’re just trying to get to
that finish line, whatever that finish line is. And maybe the finish
line for those people is just the end of the day.
Mm-hmm..
The end of the week, right? Or, and this is what we prefer… And trust
us, Erin and I are not perfect.
No.Â
No, it’s not by any stretch of the imagination, because sometimes we
fall into that first group I just mentioned. But here’s the alternative.
I’m sorry, I just wanna say-
Yeah …
you shoulda seen us yesterday- … trying to just plan one little day at
an amusement park at Cedar Point. Oh my gosh. Took half of the day.
We had another family involved, but oh my gosh- It’s true … with the
calendars and the camps and work- Yeah … and this. That’s kinda why I
laughed earlier when we were talking, ’cause I was like, oh my gosh, you
wouldn’t even imagine. It was so stressful. But it’s important to us to
do those things.
Sure. , Going to Cedar Point’s important to us. So we found a way.
Yeah.
But it’s true.
It’s… Yeah, it’s not always easy, and so we fully acknowledge that. And
you’re gonna have good days and you’re gonna have bad days. And,, what
we want for all of us, including us, is for there to be more good days
than bad days, for there, even on a bad day, to be that feeling and that
foundation and that confidence that you know what?
That there’s gonna be something on the other side of this challenge.
And , where we really wanna start today is that it starts with you,
right? And I know we say this a lot on our podcast, speaking to parents,
that the reason it begins with you is ’cause I was just thinking about
when you were talking about go- you know, just trying to get to the end
of the day.
Right.
And I know, so my daughter’s at 14. She’s still at the age where I’m
running her around from here to there- Oh, yeah … and she’s with me all
the time. She’s watching me. She’s watching how I handle my life. Yes.
She’s watching how I handle my stress. She’s watching how I get road
rage. She’s watching everything I do.
That happens a lot. It does. And how I handle my life. Yeah. And, that
is why we always bring it back to, as parents, it begins with what we
are modeling for our kids, and that’s not to put pressure on you that
you’re supposed to be perfect. Mm-mm. We talk about that a lot. , It’s
how you handle, it’s the resilience you have and how you overcome, ,
negative emotions and all of that stuff.
But when you have a life vision and you have things that you’re working
towards, your kids are watching that. Yeah. They’re always watching how
you’re handling your life, and so it’s so important to begin with you.
And, it’s so easy to fall in, especially, I think, moms, again,
especially when you’re doing all the driving around and the calendars-
Mm-hmm.
and the sports and the camps and all of this. Mm-hmm.. When that’s all
you’re focused on is, , what your kids are doing, where you’re getting
your kids, what’s happening in their future, getting them ready for the
next season of school, we forget about ourselves, and we wonder why we
feel so depleted and stressed and anxious and frustrated.
Hmm. And so it starts with you, Mom and Dad, getting clarity again on
what you want and what’s important to you, and taking in the time to
slow down and ask yourself, where am I headed? Where and who am I
becoming? Yes. Where do I wanna see myself in the next year, two years,
maybe five years? , Maybe just six months,
sometimes even thinking a year out can get really stressful for parents.
And we’re gonna give you some real tangible exercises towards the end of
this episode. Hmm. But I just want you, as I’m talking right now, to
just start thinking, whether you’re driving or you’re at the gym-
Mm-hmm. … or you’re just listening to this, wherever you are, start to
daydream a little bit again.
What do you really want for yourself? What are some of your pers-
personal dreams, goals, passions you might wanna reconnect with? It’s so
easy to forget these things for ourselves.
Yeah. And those are the things that light you up. , When you really
start thinking about what you want and what’s important to you and what
you want for your future and what your passions are, and that might get
you thinking,, “Oh my gosh, I have not been connected to those things,”
or, “I haven’t done those things yet.”
, That’s okay. It doesn’t matter what age you are. , If you’re a
teenager and listening to this, it’s okay. There is plenty of time. Or
if you’re our age, you’re 50, 50 plus, that’s okay. There’s still time.
That’s r- the reason we’re having this conversation because,, I was
talking about two different scenarios.
So I talked about scenario one, which is you’re just living your life by
the seat of your pants and you’re just surviving the chaos day to day.
We don’t want that for anybody. That’s a very unsettling feeling.
Mm-hmm..
But most importantly, the problem with scenario one is you’re not
connected to your life vision.
You’re not connected to these important things, which means you’re not
gonna feel the way that you need to feel. And Erin’s right. , In terms
of being parents, we wanna be at our best, not just for our kids. Erin
talked about the influence and the impact that has on our kids, but it
does. It starts with us.
We wanna be at our best. It’s not like we wanna feel like crap every
day. We don’t wanna be depleted every day and drained and overwhelmed
and stressful., That is not our default. Or if it is, it doesn’t need to
be moving forward. We wanna be doing the things that light us up, that
make us feel good so that we then know that if we do those things and
start to follow through on those things, we’re gonna be better parents
because we’re gonna be better people.
We’re gonna be living our lives, right? And Erin’s . , If we start
living our lives and the, the capability that we have for our lives
starts to come to fruition, we are gonna literally bring the best out of
our kids. And Erin and I have seen that time and time again, not just
with our kids and certain examples of that, which we’re always more than
happy to share, but with all the parents that we talk to who go through
our coaching, who have conversations like this, and just get started on
some of these things.
Yeah. If you’re listening to this, if creating a life vision sounds
really big and scary and it’s nothing- that you’ve ever done before, the
way we teach it in both our parent program and our, ,, young adult
program is, we kinda break it down into some different life categories.
It’s the easiest way. You can think of it as like a life pie, if you
will. And so things like, , your relationships, your intimate- Mm …
relationship with your partner, friendships, family relationships,
parenting. Where do you wanna see yourself as a parent? If your kids are
young adults heading off to college soon, you might start thinking about
How do I want that relationship to look in the next couple years?
Mm-hmm.. You know, how is that gonna shift? What kind of parent do I
wanna become with my young adult?, Your physical health, and your
wellness, and nutrition, and how do you wake up your vitality? How, your
wellbeing, how you wake up every day feeling. Your purpose and your
career path, your personal growth.
Your community, how do you wanna show up in your community? And
adventure and experiences.. What kind of trips do you wanna take? What
kind of things do you wanna do? What kind of retreats might you wanna go
on? So there’s so many different things that we often forget about when,
as parents, when we get so busy with our kids and that lifestyle.
And so just start dreaming. That’s really where it begins. There is no
big strategy to this. We’re gonna give you some exercises at the end of
the episode, but this is really about starting to just let your mind
wander, your imagination open up. Connect with yourself in meditation or
a visualization exercise, and just start to think about, what do I want
again?
What do I want these areas of my life to look like? And the truth is, a
few of these areas are gonna be prominent, right? And that’s how I coach
on this, is that there’s probably two or three of these areas that
you’re already thinking like, “Yeah, I really wanna get clear, crystal
clear on this. I can already see where I want this part of my life to
go.”
And so take those few areas of your life that already align with you,
that resonate with you, and start working on those areas.
Yeah, absolutely. And I think that, yeah, Erin’s right. I think that at
first glance, like you start looking at all the different categories of
your life, and there’s probably a couple that are gonna rise to the top.
Mm-hmm.. Whether it’s you’re unhappy with your career, maybe it’s with
your marriage and your, your partnership with your husband or wife. Or
maybe it’s the way you look or the way you feel, or a lot of those
things kinda rise to the top, but the reality is too, Erin, is that, you
know what, all these categories are probably equally as important.
Because if you’re in not a great relationship, does that impact the
other areas of your life? Yeah. Course it does. If you are not happy
with your career or your job, does that impact the other areas of your
life? Of course it does. And so you start to see why it’s so important
to start to look at these things, and not just once.
And so that’s the real secret to this process, is that we’re not gonna
do this just one time. You’re not just gonna sit down at your desk and
get out your journal and start to write down what you want in each of
these areas of your life and have all the answers in that first sitting.
Mm-hmm..
That’s not the way it works at all.
The way that it works is you get started, you spend 15, 20 minutes, or
however long you want for that matter, but you spend a little bit of
time getting started, and then you come back to it on a consistent
basis. And this is something that Erin and I, we definitely try to be
good at, but we’re not perfect at it either.
But the goal is, at least weekly-
Mm-hmm. …
is that there is a ritual that you have for yourself, and eventually for
your family, where you connect with this life vision on a consistent,
regular, in-depth basis, where you’re really thinking about it, you’re
really looking at it, you’re really getting clarity.
Clarity comes only from consistency. First time you look at these
things, it’s gonna be big, overwhelming, and foggy, and not clear, and
you’re not sure. , All these questions, yeah. You can’t worry about any
of that stuff. You just gotta keep coming back to it time and time
again.
And that’s really what it’s about.
This is about getting clarity, because clarity does equal power. You
know- Yes, it does … when you have clarity about what you want, and you
are having fun with this, and that, by the way, the fun part is so
important, ’cause it’s creating this vibration around you, this energy-
.. of excitement. , I have things to look forward to.
And so when you have that clarity, it helps to guide your everyday
decisions-
That’s right …
because you know what you’re backing into. When you have a clear vision
of, say, your physical and, , spiritual wellbeing and health, and you
have this vision of how you wanna look and how you wanna feel every day,
then you can start to consider, “Okay, what do I need to do in order to
make that happen?”
. “What resources do I need? What kind of decisions do I need to start
making? What different habits do I need to start implementing into my
everyday life?” Now, without that clarity for where you wanna see
yourself in a year from now, again, you’re just by default doing the
same- things over and over again, and nothing changes.
That’s right. And I think , the simplest strategy that I know I try to
follow as much as possible, ’cause I’ve learned this about myself, is
that, you know what? Even after you get clear on what you want, you’re
excited about your future, you know what it is that you wanna go out and
achieve, there’s still gonna be a ton and ton of resistance, a lot of
stuff that’s gonna try to talk you out of it, and get in your way, and
distract you, like , that day I was talking about earlier.
Remember? All those challenges, and all those activities, and all that
school stuff, and all the work stuff, and all the relation stuff. It’s
gonna get in the way, but with clarity comes power, because the last
little part of this formula is what’s the first step? Okay? What’s the
first step? Doesn’t have to be all the steps.
You don’t have to know exactly how I’m gonna solve that problem or
achieve that goal, but I think we can all think of, , what’s the first
thing that I can do to get started? And then you just go out there and ,
you do it, and you do it right away. And as I always say to the kids
that I coach is, you don’t wait.
You wake up the next morning, or actually as soon as you get done with
this conversation, you go out there and you do it because that’s what’s
gonna get us really feeling good about ourselves.
Yeah, and then once you start getting that clarity on your own personal
vision, right? And you’re starting to model that for your kids- Mm-hmm.
and believe me, it will change the way you show up every day because
it’s gonna change the decisions you’re making every day, yes, it will.
When you have that clarity, you start making different choices, you
start showing up healthier, a little less stressed, maybe a little less
frustrated. Your kids start to notice, your partner starts to notice.
And then you can bring this into your family, and this is where it gets
really fun ’cause you can start creating a little bit of a family vision
for how you wanna see your family show up- Yeah … and the things you
want and the goals you wanna set as a family. And this is where you get
to bring your kids into it, even if they’re young adults,
mm-hmm. Even if they’re, don’t even live at home anymore, you can still
bring them into it. You bring your partner into it. You start sitting
down as a family and asking everyone, “Where would you like to see us as
a family in a year from now?”
Mm-hmm..
That’s a really fun exercise, and you would, you’re gonna be amazed at
the answers you get from your kids, from your partner.
It’s really fun.
It is really fun because you know what I think what surprises us is
that, you know what, everybody’s got great ideas. Everybody’s got a
thought on that, and and you might think to yourself, like, “Oh, I don’t
think so. I don’t think they’d have anything to say,” but they have a
lot to say on that.
I think family is an important value for most kids and for, of course,
most parents.
Mm-hmm..
Um, but it’s not something that we talk about a lot, and it’s definitely
not something that we talk about in regards to what’s that really look
like and what’s it feel like, and what are some of the activities that
we can, , that can do, that can really bring that particular thing to
life, and that’s really what we’re talking about.
, I think the best, one of the best questions, Erin, that you c- you can
build around this is what are the values that our family want to be
associated with?
Mm-hmm..
What are the values? And maybe it’s connection, maybe it’s experience,
maybe it’s adventure. , Maybe it’s, , relationships.
Maybe we wanna be connected to a lot of other families and friends and
things like that. Maybe it’s amazing,, vacations, there’s so many
different values that your individual family can be associated with, and
that can start to guide some of your choices. And not just your big
choices. I mentioned some bigger things, but go back to that day-to-day.
It can guide your weeks, it can guide your days, it can start to plan
some of those intentional activities that you’re doing, not just
individually now, but together as a family to bring your family
together.
Yeah. When we talk about family culture on this podcast, , that’s where
this begins. This is the foundation.
It is. As you start creating that vision, you start getting clear on
your family’s values, and again, it, yes, maybe it’s the big trips, the
big adventures, all that fun stuff. It’s also just how you show up as a
family day-to-day. So when you have clarity on how you wanna feel as a
family- Mm-hmm. … how you wanna show up together, what you want your
future to look like, then again, just like I said before with the
individual vision, you can start backing into that.
Yes.
So if we wanna feel more connected, if we want less stress in this
household- Hmm … if we want more connection, what do we have to do
differently?, Maybe we have family dinner w- just once or twice a week,
right? Yeah. And connect more. Maybe we go on a Sunday hike as a
family., Everybody puts their phones away, and we do that.
You can start coming up with so many great ideas, and your kids get to
throw their ideas in the mix, and your partner gets to throw theirs in
the mix, and you collectively get to create a calendar, , a monthly
calendar based on that family vision and those family choices.
That’s right, because a, a family and an individual that has a vision
means that you have direction And if you have a direction, it means that
every day when you wake up, there is a reason to get out of bed.
There’s things to go out and do. There’s a, a version of yourself that’s
gonna be able to make all that happen. When we start talking about some
of the distractions and some of the challenges that are gonna get in the
way, when you have direction and you have a life vision for yourself and
for your family, it helps you navigate those challenges a lot easier.
Mm-hmm..
If you don’t have a vision and a direction, guess what? Those
distractions become a much, much bigger problem.
Yeah, because the truth is, if you don’t have that direction and you
don’t have that life design, , you… we fall back into the default,
right? That’s right. The default of work and activities and sports and
our phones and stress and all those endless things.
Doesn’t mean all of that just goes away because you create a life
vision, but they don’t have to take over as much. That’s right. That
won’t be your default. You’ll have something else to remember.
That’s right. ’Cause we’re not talking about completely changing our
lives here, okay? Now, some of this will- Mm-hmm.
like in the long term. We’re talking about small steps, we’re talking
about knowing what we want and waking up each day and probably doing a
couple of things differently. Yeah. A couple of different choices. We’re
spending a little bit of time together before that we weren’t before
this,
we’re doing a few more intentional activities together that we weren’t
doing before this. We’re connecting with ourselves a little bit more
consistently. All of this stuff is gonna help us in the long run.
Now, trust me, over time, as you get good at this and you really
practice this can absolutely- Yes
change your life. This can change your identity.
Yes.
And I know that because it’s happened to me. I’ve been working on
visualization- Mm … and honing in on a life vision for a long time.
Yeah. And some things still haven’t come to fruition. I’ve c- you know,
reached a lot of my goals. I’ve manifested a lot of incredible things in
my life, and over time, a lot of these things have changed who I am at
my core.
They’ve helped me become the person- I truly wanted to become, and it
takes time, but you have to start somewhere. And so let’s talk a little
bit about some exercises that you can start putting into practice- Yeah
… this week to get started. So that first part is to just write out your
vision,
have fun with it. Get your journal out. My suggestion is not to
overwhelm you. . Choose one or two of those areas of life we mentioned,
or whatever comes to mind for you. Like Chris said, if you know your
relationship, it really needs work, or that’s something that’s really
important to you that you wanna work on.
Maybe it’s that you- need to get out. If you’re a mom, you need to have
women’s retreat, and you know that you have to get away over this next
year- and find, a group of women to, be supported by. Maybe it’s that
you wanna buy your dream home, or you wanna take a trip with your
family.
Whatever it is, choose one or two areas- and just get, get a journal out
or a notebook, set a timer on your phone, maybe put some, instrumental
music on in the background, something that’s gonna inspire you or
motivate you, and just write. Write for 20 minutes. What does that look
like for you? And just don’t take your pen off the paper.
One thing I can promise you is that you are gonna have a lot of
resistance. And there’s gonna be a lot of limiting beliefs that come up
for you. Chris and I, if we’re being honest, sometimes we avoid doing
this together because we know that sometimes it causes an argument
between us, right? Yeah.
’Cause I tend to, , go all out and think too big. , It’s not too big,
but I dream- Mm … really, really big. Mm. And Chris, thank God, is
sometimes a little bit more of the realist who gets like, ” I don’t know
where… how we’re gonna afford that,” right? Or, “Where’s the budget for
that?” Or, “How is this gonna happen?”
And so we have to meet in the middle often. So that’s between us, but
that’s gonna happen, that inner conflict might happen just between you
and yourself. And so what you need to do is keep going. Don’t worry
about the hows. Don’t worry about how it’s gonna happen or when it’s
gonna happen or all the what ifs.
Just write. Just dream. Just have fun. That’s gotta be the first step.
If you can’t get past that, it’s never gonna happen. So just expect
that, , that resistance to show up And then evaluate your life, this is
another great exercise. Just take a step back. I call it kinda zooming
the camera lens out and taking inventory, and just taking a look at the
different areas of your life, and get some clarity.
What areas of my life are calling me the most? Where do I feel the most
urgency to create some change in my life and to start creating vision?
And do a scale from one to 10, on a scale from one to 10, where am I in
my parenting? Where am I in my purpose and career? Where am I in my
friendships or my personal growth?
And if you are at, , a seven , or under, just start asking yourself some
simple questions. , What are a couple simple shifts I can start making
in those areas of my life?
Yeah, the only way that we’re gonna get better, okay, individually and
as a family, is we gotta get honest with ourselves.
Mm-hmm..
And once again, I think this is an area that a lot of people struggle
with, is looking in the mirror and looking at these things, and just
being honest. And it’s okay, by the way, if some of these things aren’t
going as well as we’d like. That’s actually a good thing. Mm-hmm..
Because that means, guess what?
That you have a lot to look forward to, there’s a lot of change that can
come from that, but you first gotta get real. And even if it’s your
parenting, your relationship with your children, your job or your
career, that’s a huge one. , That’s a lot of time that we spend each
week, and if you’re not loving your job and enjoying your job, and it’s
fulfilling you on a deeper level, that’s something that deserves, some
attention.
I know all about that. Years and years ago, I went through that process,
and that’s a big reason why I’m sitting here today. Erin too. Mm-hmm..
But had we not slowed down and gotten honest and really had these tough
conversations and gotten real about where things are and where we wanna
get, and Erin’s right, it’s not comfortable.
Like, these conversations, especially at first, you’re like, “Oh, man.”,
“I guess I really haven’t thought about it.” But, - remember what I said
earlier with consistency. And so if you fall out of practice of this,
when you get back on it, yeah, it’s gonna be a little hard again. But it
does get easier. If you create a ritual out of having these
conversations consistently with yourself, your partner, and your family,
you’re gonna get to a point where you start to figure out, , “Okay, this
really works for us,”
because you’re not just gonna get clear on your vision, you’re gonna
walk away from those conversations or from that ritual with a little bit
of a plan, mm-hmm. The more… Remember, clarity is a really powerful
thing, not just because it feels good and it gets you energized and you
can see it and start to believe it, but the more all that b- starts to
come to fruition, you start to see the path forward.
You start to see what some of those next steps are.
Yeah, because trust me, the pain of staying stuck in an area of your
life that’s not working is far greater than the little bit of
uncomfortability that comes from doing- Yeah … these exercises. And
burying your head in the sand- … if you are unhappy with the way you
show up as a parent, in your relationship with your partner, with a
career or a job that you don’t love, your health and wellness-
Your physical wellbeing, all of that. If you are miserable in some of
those areas of your life, , and we all are in some area or another.
We’re human. It’s just the way it goes. But burying your head in the
sand and pretending it’s not there is so much more painful than just
getting uncomfortable and overcoming some of that resistance.
And like I said, I promise you the biggest, , limiting belief that my
clients, the parents we coach and the kids we coach, is that, that we
are wired in our culture to be realistic, and so that, “Well, I don’t
know. How is that gonna happen?” gets in the way. So just look out for
that, you guys.
Don’t let that hold you back. It held me back for years. I know it held
Chris back for years. , And, once you get good at doing this with
yourself, then, yeah, get together with your partner or a best friend or
your kids and have fun with this and just ask questions. What do you
want more of in life?
What do you want less of? Where do you wanna see some changes in your
life? Just get the conversation started, get the journal exercise
started. That’s the first step forward.
All right, everybody. This has been an amazing conversation. Thanks so
much for tuning in. You know what you have to do now,
if you’ve been putting this off for a week or a year or 10 years, it’s
time.
Mm-hmm..
And Erin and I are gonna take the spirit of this conversation , to the
woods this weekend.
That’s right.
Like, we’re gonna be camping for the next few days, and so we’re gonna
be doing these exact same exercises.
We’re gonna be looking at our vision, which we haven’t, honestly,
because we’ve been so busy-
Yeah …
we haven’t looked at either. And so we’re in this together, but there is
no time like the present, because we know,, what a awful feeling it is
to, to know that some of these areas of your life aren’t where they need
to be or where they should be or where they deserve to be.
Okay. Remember what I said when we first kicked off the conversation
today. We all have a beautiful, inspiring life to look forward to. It’s
time that it gets the attention that it deserves. Mm-hmm.. It’s time to
get some of the clarity that it needs, and it’s time for us to come
together as a family to help and support each other in making it come to
life.
Love that, babe. And I love you guys so much. Love you guys. Thank you
so much for tuning in, and we’ll see you next week.
See you next week. Take care. Bye-bye.
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